On Saturday, January 9th, 2010, I presented a work shop on Healthy Boundaries and Finding Time for Yourself to Write. Page 1 is the actual outline, page 2 Suggestions for finding time for yourself to write and page 3, the handout regarding Boundaries that was passed out in the work shop.
Healthy Boundaries & Finding Time for Yourself to Write . . .
A Work Shop Brought to You by Corinne E. Frontiero.
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In order to find time to write, you have to be able to understand both the concept of boundaries and how they relate to your time management. Because, frankly, too often, continuous violation of your boundaries, pa
rticularly dedicating too much time to other people, will cost you in terms of finding time to do something you like to do: writing.
So, in order to “move forward”, we need to determine what a boundary is? A boundary as defined in Moving Forward, my Divorce Recovery Handbook, is:
A limit or edge that defines you as separate from others.
A boundary is a limit that promotes integrity and respect.
Boundaries are visible and invisible.
Boundaries are emotional and physical.
Boundaries are based upon relationships [and often violated in them]. Relationships cannot overlap and should not “enmesh”. Enmeshment is when one household (let’s say a parent who has sole physical custody) has the new family’s pressures foisted onto them, and the issues of that particular household eek into the other’s.
Boundaries allow for each individual to experience their own failures and successes.
Now that we have defined what boundaries are, let’s partake in a little self help questionnaire. Shall we?
1. Describe a situation where you think a boundary of your’s was violated.
2. Describe a visible and invisible boundary.
3. Describe a situation where you experienced an emotional or physical boundary violation.
4. Describe how a relationship (husband, wife, parent, child, boss, employee boundary can become contaminated by one person desiring a different relationship).
Boundaries allow for each individual to experience their own failures and successes.
Explain what you think this statement means:
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See Pages 2 & 3 for additional information on presentation.
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