Love does not begin and end

the way we seem to think it does.

Love is a battle, love is a war;

Love is a growing up.

Where Are You in Your Divorce Recovery?

The following is an excerpt from Moving Forward.  It's intent is to assist in determining where you are at in terms of your divorce recovery.  As a means of  measurement, the following standardized recovery time typically applies to divorce:  Generally, it takes an adult 2 to 2 1/2 years to adjust to a divorce.  The clock starts ticking based upon the date of your final entry of the Judgment of Divorce. 

DO YOU HAVE AN EMOTIONAL DIVORCE?

____      I think about my former spouse only occasionally now.

____      I no longer become upset when I have to deal with my former  

               spouse.

____      I have stopped trying to please my former spouse.

____      I no longer seek excuses to talk with my former spouse.

____      I rarely talk about my former spouse to my friends.

____      I have accepted that we are not getting back together.

_____    My feelings of romantic love are gone.

_____    My emotional commitment to my former spouse is over.

_____    I can accept my former spouse having a love relationship with 

               another person.

_____    I am no longer angry at my former spouse.

Obviously, if indeed, you answered “yes” to a majority of the above-referenced questions, you are doing well.  If, however, your answers were mostly “no”, chances are you have a ways to go in order to complete grief loss closure and your continuing an unhealthy relationship with an ex-spouse only stands to leave you both “locked in battle”.