ON THE ISSUE OF TAKING RISKS . . .
The reason people have such a difficult time processing divorce is largely, in part, because of their refusal to “stick to the present”. By this, I mean, that after a Divorce, individuals tend to spend far too much time analyzing and rationalizing why the Divorce occurred when they should be trying to “move forward”, instead. The reality is: what is “done” cannot be “undone” and thus, you have only the future to look forward to. So, bottom line, how do you want to proceed now that you are divorced? Do you want to spend a lot of waste less time and energy flyspecking what went wrong, or do you want to submit to change, see where you may have erred in your marriage, and make the appropriate changes in yourself so that the next relationship does not end up with the same result? While you are making this decision, I leave you with the following thought about “risk” factors”, in general:
RISKS
To laugh is to risk appearing the fool.
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.
To reach out for another is to risk involvement.
To expose feelings is to risk exposing your true self.
To place your ideas, your dreams before the
crowd is to risk their loss.
To love is to risk not being loved in return.
To live is to risk dying.
To hope is to risk despair.
To try is to risk failure.
But risks must be taken, because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing. The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing and is nothing. He may avoid suffering and sorrow, but he simply cannot learn, feel, change, grow, love or live. Chained by his certitudes, he is a slave, he has forfeited freedom.
Only a person who risks is free.
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